“Not Like Other Girls:” The Problem with Praise

It’s seen across social media, it’s said in the movies and throughout young adult literature. It’s the title of an iconic album, and slapped across t-shirts as a slogan. The phrase “not like other girls” is so subconsciously prevalent in society that it has become one of those tropes women both brace themselves for in certain situations or share in others.

It’s often intended to be a compliment, but should it be something to be proud of or perpetuate?

Rupi Kaur, the 24-year-old Canadian poet and Instagram star we admire*, explores this concept in a poem from her first collection, Milk and Honey. She writes about a boy who attempts flattery with the similar “not like most girls” comment.

Not being “like most women” suggests there is something intrinsically wrong with womankind. But why would knocking down other women be considered a compliment or praise?

To combat the often subconscious “not like other girls” commentary, we want to be more mindful in how we talk about other women, and how we celebrate ourselves — which you should never stop doing!

Our own research shows the power of women when they’re supportive and reassuring, which creates a chain of strength. In fact, more than 57 percent of women say that support of another women has helped them succeed in life.

Keep it up!


* Special K is not affiliated with Rupi Kaur — we just admire her work!